Ep #2: Mindfulness and Orgasm

Have you heard of the term “spectatoring?”

Masters and Johnson coined the term “spectatoring,” and Psychology Today describes it as, “watching yourself have sex, accompanied by an anxious, internal, self-conscious dialogue. The internal chatter can include worries about one’s body (‘I wonder if he thinks I look fat’) or about one’s sexual performance (‘He must be bored, I’m taking too long to come’; ‘Does he like the way I am touching him?’).”

Our minds are powerful tools! 

This may be new to some but a majority of women struggle with spectatoring during sex and reaching orgasm. Other women never reach orgasm. 

In the episode, Dr. Rachel Pope is joined by her two buddies, experts, and the Menopause Retreat co-founders: Anna Myers, Urology Nurse Practitioner & Sex Counselor, and Jean Marino, Women’s Sexual Health and Menopause expert to discuss mindfulness, orgasm, and the research behind it. As well as, tips on how women can use their thoughts to reach climax.

Featured in this episode:

• Spectatoring
• Being present during sex
• Mind-body connection
• Sensate Focus
• Fantasizing for arousal

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